Kids in Therapeutic Settings
What’s your resilience with tolerating your child’s discomfort? Unless you can handle your child’s discomfort, they cannot grow.
First Program? Program to Program? Getting them to commit?
When a child enters a therapeutic setting for the first time or the fourth time, the event is momentous for the whole family. It’s a lot of work! How are you supposed to connect with them if they’re disconnected or upset at having been given an ultimatum? How are you supposed to talk to your partner through the process? What about all the therapeutic work that’s expected of you? You trust the placement process and the program and still have so many feelings of your own to process.
Vulnerability is a Badge
When we meet to work through the challenges and opportunities of having a child in a therapeutic setting, one of the first places I start is with you. You might be hoping for the best outcome and wanting to have a handle on the situation to ensure it, but until you face what you’re going through on a personal level, your parental “attention” is counterproductive. When you can connect with yourself (realizing your own inability to control), your child will recognize your humanity and vulnerability. That vulnerability can be an essential part support they’ll need from you to move forward.
These are the stages I help with in the therapeutic setting process:
- Sending your child to a program
- Resistance from your child about going and how to cope with that discomfort
- Duration of program understanding the process and length of individual program and your child.
- Next program, how to make peace if coming home is not the right nextstep for your child
- Developing a Home Plan. Whether you are working with a consultant or a therapist you will develop a home plan. I am here to help implement and keep the plan in action. Holding not only your child but you accountable. Having a Plan B in place so as not to react in “crisis” mode.